Editor's note: This guest column contains content that some readers may find disturbing.

It was either the company or myself, but one of us had to die. I could not consciously live in two prisons at the same time, especially with what I just found.

As some of you know, my former company, Kasteel Construction and Coatings Inc. (KCC) is dead. I chose to file for insolvency Oct. 17, 2023, shortly after our Northern wildfire evacuations. I hurt many people in many ways with this decision.

As some of you may know through 2022 and 2023, I personally experienced significant successive unexpected traumatic triggers; several present-day brutal events eliciting devastating reactions from my past events.

And as some of you may also know, starting from the age of 13 in Yellowknife, I was sexually molested and psychologically hunted for years by a close trusted family friend. This started after lung cancer killed my 44-year-old father. This family friend was a friend and leader in our community church and a local health leader. He was a second dad to me.

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He molested my mind. He raped my soul.

He was so powerful in so many ways. I trusted him. He was he, so how could this be wrong even though it eventually started feeling wrong?

I was just a kid who just lost his dad, his hero, his protector. I was just a kid looking for love, security, a hug. Instead, this manSA国际影视传媒檚 hugs led to unzipping my pants.

Understand this: the molestation of the body versus the molestation of the mind and of the soul are two very, very different things. A fractured bone rather than a fractured mind/heart/soul is a simplicity I could only wish for. I suffer silently with something you cannot X-ray while others walk around acknowledging and signing someoneSA国际影视传媒檚 arm or leg cast with no discomfort at all. And ISA国际影视传媒檓 the messed up one?

I will not live a fake life. I will not fake anything for this is what he taught me. When aware, I will exterminate his evil traits whilst carefully extracting whatever constructive lessons and tools I can from it.

Bitterness and hatred are known cheap enemies. Love, accountability, and fun are my powerful friends.

So, as I continue slogging along a path to heal and to being healthy, what does that even mean? In looking up the American Psychological Association (APA) definition of health, I found this: 'The condition of oneSA国际影视传媒檚 mind, body, and spirit, the idea being freedom from illness, injury, pain, and distress.'

And trauma? The APA definition: '... any disturbing experience that results in significant fear, helplessness, dissociation, confusion, or other disruptive feelings intense enough to have long lasting negative effect on a personSA国际影视传媒檚 attitudes, behaviour, and other aspects of functioning. Traumatic events often challenge an individualSA国际影视传媒檚 view of the world as a just, safe and predictable place.'

Yes, I am a mess. And yes, I am screwed up.

I was always personally or professionally exhausting myself to help others, yet I starved. I sentenced myself to this because I was unworthy of food. This, another destructive subconscious teaching from him. Another sadistic blind conditioning.

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The feverish first words uttered to my assigned psychiatrist during a stay at a psychiatric ward in hospital in Alberta from Sept. 2 to 28, 2023. I asked for help after fighting with suicidal thoughts again. These thoughts caused by massive and repetitive subconscious triggers. My nervous system was stuck in heightened mode from SA国际影视传媒榟im,SA国际影视传媒� and with massive triggers added on, all this and more caused me to subconsciously shift into higher and higher and faster and faster gears.

I couldnSA国际影视传媒檛 see myself, yet I could somewhat. More inner conflict and confusion. The full health and trauma definitions thrown in a blender on high speed. ThatSA国际影视传媒檚 me, plus a hell of a lot more.

As I discover more of me, I grieve more of me. I then process more of me. Silent suffering: a lifelong masterSA国际影视传媒檚 degree unto its own.

Blame is a sickness and a complete waste. Negativity kills. This stuff is his evil.

So, in this New Year when things may look bleak at times, I humbly offer this:

• It all starts with you
• You are worth it, you matter
• Slow things down to see, shut the mouth/fingers to hear
• Power is inside, just park the ego to access it
• Be gentle with you, yet kick yourself in the butt when required
• Change hurts, itSA国际影视传媒檚 uncomfortable. ThatSA国际影视传媒檚 what growth is
• Stay true to your instincts and your inner compass, no matter how hard
• Baby steps are still steps, but still progress
• Simplify. Calm things where you can
• Wisdom is waiting in the quiet

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Get ready. More SA国际影视传媒楬ardass LoveSA国际影视传媒� writings are on the way. And Goliath better get out of the way, or heSA国际影视传媒檚 going down. Big time.

God bless you, everyone, and happy New Year!