What makes a good leader has been discussed for hundreds of years. I wanted to reflect on my experiences with leadership, conflict resolution, and how we can make good on a promise to respect one another while still not disrespecting ourselves. I like to celebrate the prime examples of leadership in my life.

These looked like leaders who could identify that their main job was to ensure that everyone who was working with them, and technically, for them, had exactly what they needed. This was not only in a practical sense with all the tools and resources or knowledge of procedures involved with completing a job. This process also encompassed the ability to inspire, enrich and generate enthusiasm in sharing time with other people that worked with them.

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I wanted to know that the people that I looked up to for guidance really knew their stuff. This was the main thing I was worried about when in on of my longer-term positions, after I had completed my masterSA国际影视传媒檚 degree, I had seen a dearth of responsible and emotionally intelligent leaders in 5 years. Emotionally Intelligent leaders lead from behind. They do not showboat or take credit.

There are leaders who will do this and they are not malignant showboaters or destructive braggarts. The people that they work with simply find them very annoying. But, I have seen other people exploit their power to the point where the other employeeSA国际影视传媒檚 needs, even if more complex and requiring more long term accommodations, simply were not worth the bother and would fire and hire indiscriminately.

ItSA国际影视传媒檚 that kind of workplace setting that uninspires people to become in any way attached to the prospect of remaining loyal. It was when I went to Alberta when I saw that kind of loyalty in action.

The leaders that I learned from were from all walks of life, mind you, they just happened to be living and working in Alberta at the time of our relationships. The people who led from behind didnSA国际影视传媒檛 take credit that wasnSA国际影视传媒檛 theirs and were able to go above and beyond were form different provinces including Quebec, New Brunswick, Nova Scotia, Northwest Territories, BC, and even one from PEI. Some Ontarian's were in there too.

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All money is, is energy. And all any transaction is with another human being must be based on good faith. If there is doubt surrounding the ability for anybody to SA国际影视传媒渃ome throughSA国际影视传媒� on what theySA国际影视传媒檙e willing to give in any relationship, have a conversation with an opportunity for people to take ownership of whatSA国际影视传媒檚 theirs: the good, bad and the ugly. If this canSA国际影视传媒檛 be done though due to many repair attempts with little to know ownership, it is better to pull out, and compassionately say why.

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Wishing you good mental health, Jessica.